Red flags in a relationship you shouldn’t ignore
The easier dating gets by the day the scarier it seems. The “dating pool” is contaminated and there is no vaccine if you are infected. A bad relationship can cause severe physical, mental and emotional trauma and sometimes very expensive therapy. Save yourself the tears, drama and therapy by noticing these red flags and run… run… run… away baby!
- Lack of communication: Well, space is a good thing but not when one of you is on earth and the other one on the moon. What is the point of a relationship if both of you can’t share your thoughts or talk about how your day was? A healthy relationship is where you do not have to think twice before pouring your heart out or telling your thoughts. An absent, dismissive or unresponsive partner is a major red flag.
- Pushes physical boundaries: Did I say run away? As fast and as far as you can! This is one of the worst things a person can do and you don’t need to wait to see other red flags. Sometimes your partner may act innocent and cross boundaries or may try to. If you say no and they continue, they do not respect you.
- Refusing to make a serious relationship public: Red flag spotted! If you both are serious and it is a real relationship but your partner refuses to acknowledge it publicly you should reconsider it. If it is not explicitly stated by both the parties that the relationship will be a secret then it is time to step back.
- Incapable of apologizing: D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R alert! Never ignore arrogance, bigotry and patronizing behavior. You will realize this in the initial stage of the relationship itself. This is toxic and should be unacceptable. Their ego should never be bigger than your feelings for them. This inflated sense of self-importance will hurt the relationship in the long run.
- Chronic infidelity: Need I say more? Forget chronic, infidelity is intolerable even once. How would you ever trust your partner if you are constantly doubting their intentions? The relationship is doomed if it lacks loyalty. Essential red flag!
- Inconsistency: Gives mixed signals, doesn’t talk about the future, comes and goes whenever it suits them, is just there to satisfy their physical needs…take your pick and walk out if they don’t seem to change after you mentioning it multiple times.
Take a long and hard look at your relationship, you might be truly, madly, deeply in love but is your partner too? Take off the rose-tinted glasses otherwise, the red flags will look just like flags and examine your relationship.